Tuesday, 4 December 2018

Whose Table Is It

The proverbial table. We've all heard and/or participated in discussions regarding 'the table'.  Some people will even go as far as claiming that they don't bring stuff to the table because they ARE the table, lol.

A friend sent me a message, you know the usual screenshots doing the rounds on social media. The screenshot read,

“Men want women to bring something to the table but the table is not even his. The table was given to his grandma by her employer, then the grandma gave it to his mother, who gave it to him and now it’s broken because men destroy things.

Now, you want me to bring something to your grandma’s employer’s broken table? No. It is an honour for me to even come to this table so I’m not bringing anything.

I will consider bringing something to the table if you can prove that it is yours, and it better be in good condition because I got my ish together and I’m not about to settle for a broken table.”

This message has so many nuances. I'm not gonna get into all of them, but it got me thinking. Yes the state of the table is important, but whose table is it?

I don’t have all the answers either, but the notion that the table belongs to the man already puts me at a disadvantage, and my role becomes that of an invitee. If I let the table be someone else’s responsibility then I’ll always be a guest… at someone else’s table. Can one be a guest and an equal at the same time? If I want equality, which I interpret as FAIRNESS, it is realistic for me relinquish all the 'table' responsibility to someone else?

As convenient and easy as it would be for me to sit at someone else’s table, I’ve decided that maybe I don’t want to. Instead of bringing cute ornaments to the table I wanna help build the table. If for no other reason than the simple fact that I can. 

…and unlike the ‘grandma’ and the ‘mother’ referred to in this screenshot, I want full credit for it… and all the rights and privileges that come with being part-owner of the said table.

What do you think?

Yimina ozithobayo,


Saturday, 24 November 2018

Micellar Water vs Toner/ Everyday Night Time Skin Care Routine

A couple of months ago I bought micellar water. I’ve heard a lot of good things about it so I wanted to try it out. I use the micellar water as a secondary make-up remover after facial wipes. After a few uses I started wondering whether or
not I can use the water as a toner as well. So I did a little research and here’s what I’ve deduced:

Micellar water is a cleanser. It contains micelles (tiny oily molecules) that are partially dissolved in soft water; the micelles are the cleansing agent that attract and dissolve dirt and oil from your skin. It is recommended that you rinse your face after using the micellar water.

On the other hand a toner is used to restore moisture after cleansing your skin; you are generally not required to rinse it off. It also helps prep the skin for better absorption of nutrients from your mask, serum, and/or moisturiser.

Here’s how I incorporate the two products in my night time skin care routine (especially for days when I wear make-up):

Step 1:
I apply coconut oil all over my face, leave it for a minute or two then wipe it off using a facial wipe.

Step 2:
Apply a few drops of micellar water (currently using Garnier SkinActive Micellar Water) on a cotton pad and wipe off any access dirt.

Step 3:
Depending on how much energy I have left after a whole day’s work (and traffic) I either both cleanse and exfoliate or I do one of. For my cleanser I use L’Oreal Pure Clay Detox Wash and the Neutrogena Hydro Boost Exfoliator for exfoliating.

Sometimes I’ll use the L’Oreal cleanser with my cleansing brush and skip the ’chemical’ exfoliator.

Step 4:
Apply toner using a cotton pad. I’m using the Dischem Rose Water and have been for a while. Actually I used it as a make-up remover as well before I bought the micellar water.

Step 5:
Apply serum; I use the Estee Lauder Advanced Night Repair.

Step 6:
Moisturise. I have numerous moisturisers but predominantly use the Nivea Crème for my super dry skin.

Yimina ozithobayo


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